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The Secret to Finding Your Most Meaningful Goals
Have you ever noticed that you are more likely to do the things you like to do? Given the choice between doing something we have to do and doing something that we want to do, it's much easier to choose the latter. It simply feels good to do the thing that resonates....
Know Your Red Flag Feelings…and Don’t React!
My computer crashed…again. I was right in the middle of writing a big proposal. And just like that, I become the snippy, curt version of Shelley instead of the attentive, polite Shelley. I’ve been triggered. This is not a defect of character – it’s something that...
Don’t Overlook Key Issues: Three Steps to Use Feelings to Point the Way
Have you ever heard, “There’s no place for feelings at work?” We like to think that we can block out feelings at work but we can’t. Feelings are an integral part of who we are. Dr. Jill Bolte-Taylor noted that while many of us think of ourselves as thinking...
Flaming Emails: Don’t be THAT Person
You know a flaming email when you see it. Sarcasm, anger, or a belittling tone seep through the screen. It’s astounding how much tone we read into an email. It’s easier than you might think to send a flaming email. In fact, most executives that I work with don’t...
Over-thinking It? Notice and Name Feelings
Video #6 of the Series - Effective Decision-Making in an Over-Thinking World In this video series, Shelley works with you to understand the under-the-surface influences that impact your decision-making. You’ll learn how to stop over-thinking decisions; slow knee-jerk...
Is It Soup Yet? How To Know when It’s Time to Decide and Move On
You want to make a sound, thoughtful decision but it’s a tough one. How do you know when you have given adequate consideration? How do you know when it’s time to decide and move on? An executive that I work with calls that question, “Is it soup yet?” Have you...
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Words Matter: Three Steps to Using Words to Get What You Want
“I’m trying not to be worried. It will be fine.” If I said it once, I said it a hundred times. I said it to my friends. I said it to my work colleagues. And most importantly, I said it to myself. Looking back, I thought I was being positive. “It will all be fine.”...
For Effective Leaders: Five Reasons Why “Feelings” is Not a Dirty Word
“There’s no place for feelings at work!” I heard it frequently as a young engineer. Thankfully, I learned this admonition was impossible to achieve and very bad for my career. Today, after interviewing 76 effective leaders, it is clear that the skillful use of...
Bravery in Action
We were in Mikki William’s speaker school. The room was filled with accomplished professionals from a variety of businesses, each there for their unique reasons. One was Barbara. Tall and striking, Barbara’s goal was to overcome her anxiety about speaking. On day two,...
Fire Up Your Conversations! When to Use Email–or Your Voice
It’s a cold winter’s day and the fireplace is blazing. Yellow flames grasp upward and their heat warms the room. It’s the gas fireplace in my living room. Down the road the fireplace is blazing at my friend’s house. Yellow flames grasp upward, heat warms the room...
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